As an Intimacy Educator, I love to share resources. I have recently discovered “A Sex Journal for Couples” from Ohnut.
I found the Ohnut Company and its products when I was experiencing difficulties around sex while transitioning from Perimenopause to Menopause. Like many other women, I struggled with changes in libido, tender to the touch skin, and vaginal dryness. I also had a severe bout with Post-Menopausal Bleeding. Six months of struggles landed me in the hospital.
To get the bleeding and severe pain with cramping to stop, I underwent a D&C (Dilation and curettage) procedure. The D&C, combined with the preceding six months, left me with no libido and a “don’t touch me there” attitude. Previously I was very active and happy with my sexual escapes and my high sex drive. One of the reasons I love offering Intimacy Education is the joy I find in this realm.
Post-surgery I was happy to let my body rest. But for how long and then what? What is my new normal after the 6-month roller-coaster I just went through? My belief was, “I’m a sex educator. I’m required to have an active sex life.” Huh? Let’s look at that. Active? Well, yes, please. But I needed to follow the advice I give my clients and make it quality, not quantity.
What quality do I want? In my journey to define quality is where “A Sex Journal for Couples” came in. The website description drew me to this journal. Quoted here, “Created by a couple, A Sex Journal for Couples is a shockingly fun (and beautiful) tool for exploring sex and (post-coital) communication! Based on validated research, input from therapists and educators, and real-life experience, this journal includes helpful resources and a simple structure that brings out the explorer that you know is in there.”
It didn’t take much convincing for my husband to go along with my request to reclaim my sexuality. He was just as confused as I was. As we dove into this journal, I realized what I needed to define, design, and refine, what sex is for me. It’s helping me to get my libido and sex drive back.
The biggest tool in this journal is communication. It creates win-win opportunities. Helping you have honest conversations around not only the good but the not-so-good experiences as well.
You don’t need to have a physical ailment for this journal to be a success. All you need is a desire to learn more, be more, and explore more intimacy.